What comes around goes around....

In mid 2007- early 2008 during my divorce I was buried in debt, fear, and 60 hour work weeks.  With two young kids, more than a full-time job, a townhouse of my own to take care of and an ex to navigate while helping a child with issues I was feeling overwhelmed and alone.  My new man is a tough man and he is a no-nonsense guy who says 'just do it' attitude.

On a particularly rough day my sister texted me while I was driving to work with two fighting kids in the back seat.  At a stop light I texted back "I can't text, I'm in my car."  She replied "Don't text and drive."  And now I have two fighting kids and a lecture for a stressed- out person.  So I texted back "I'm at a stop light.  Please don't lecture."

With family I have only been able to vent to my mom.  My dad hears my complaints and tries to 'fix' things or worries too much.  With my older sister who has gone through something similar she would listen but we didn't always communicate well.  My younger sister was the one who lectured.  "stop being the victim", "stop complaining and raise your kids" among other statements.

Now 8 years later my sister and her husband moved back to PA from florida and all she does is whine and complain about the snow and weather and how florida is "paradise" and snidely makes fun of PA.  I am sick of it and have told her to either move or stop complaining (which is what she would say to me.)  This isn't life shattering.  This was a choice like my divorce.  Like when she told me to stop playing the victim.  But she likes to make herself the victim by saying they moved back "for family".  But in reality their work situation was dissolving and a job opened up back home.  They made an adult choice.  Time to deal and shut it or move back.

All in all she laid the ground work for the 'don't play the victim, shut up' mentality and I am dieing to throw it back in her face however I know that she won't remember EVER talking to me that way because I am always painted the evil-doer and nasty person and she is the 'good person'.  She couldn't be more wrong.  We both have our moments and neither of us have learned to properly be there for each other.  I will throw it in her face if I can but I keep trying to be a good person.  But some day what comes around goes around.

Wise words in marriage

Judge Lynn Toler on Divorce Court today stated "women need love when they are the least lovable and men need applause when they least deserve it."  Wise words.

Time marches on

After I started this blog I bought a 2007 vw beetle convertible and my blogging friends named her Caliente, or cali for short.  Now as I own her outright she has been failing in sections and costing me more and more money.  Do I want to get rid of her?  No.  But VW's are expensive to repair and things keep coming up.

Sadly I may trade her in.

My children are growing leaps and bounds.  My daughter is 13 years old and due to some health issues is home schooling via cyber with our district.  My son is almost 15 and has improved leaps and bounds.  He has moved through taekwondo to a black belt, he is in chorus and goes on competitive trips.  Now he wishes to try out for football.  Now in 9th grade and having 5 advanced classes he is eligible for AP level classes and his grades are good.

Watching my children grow so fast is not easy.  I was laid off from my job around 3 years ago.  I have gotten to become a 'stay at home' mom again thanks to my husband taking care of things.  My husband and I bought a new house last year after selling our two townhouses and it was a smart financial decision.  It seems my life has settled down.  We have been married for 3 years (together around 7 years.)  And married life with husband #2 has its pitfalls and moments of disagreement.  But it is far easier with him than husband #1. He is stuck with me because I am in it for the long haul.  I am truly happy.

I can't believe that in 3 short years my son will be on the cusp of graduating and heading to college.  He has a college and degree in mind and a plan.  I am proud of him. Now to get my daughter on a solid path.  But I feel old all of a sudden and want them to stop growing so darn fast.  Angel's cloud is not ready to be an empty nest any time soon.